what the fuck is going on?

yet another trend. these things are always trends. never an isolated occurrence.

funny, but from stoops' blog, titled "trend":
Flirting, fondling, hooking up, and/or having sex with a girl when she's drunk has lost almost all its appeal.
Unfortunately, that seems to be about the only way its going to happen.
It feels so fake and empty. And what does that say about me, that someone's perceptions and decision-making abilites have to be that impaired for it to happen?

from eunji's blog:
But being sober is an often-overlooked amazing state. Maybe not a positive 'amazing', but amazing nevertheless. The things you see when you're sober at a party where everyone's drunk? Walking around not stoned, with people who are stoned? You see all the faking and the pretending and the wanting to be someone or something else. How everyone is so desperately lying to everyone else and to themselves. Really, it's a better trip than being on any drugs.

then from casey's, in response to eunji's:
I've been thinking about doing this for awhile now, and eunji's post concluded my thought.
[here he excerpts the same passage that i took from eunji's so i cut it]
Next party I'm going to try to stay sober. I'll take a few birthday shots, but I don't plan on getting plastered. I want to see whats its truely like at a party. Am I having fun because of the party? Or is it just the alcohol. I'm hoping that my conclusion will be that the partying truely is fun, and that the alcohol merely makes me more social and willing to talk/get to know others that I normally wouldn't do. I'll try to be more outgoing without external help.

what's with everyone? you drink because you want to. because it's fun to be plastered. if you start worrying, yourself, that you're not drinking for yourself, then of course it's not going to be fun anymore. why mind fuck yourself? just be confident in the fact that you're having fun the way you want to. you shouldn't have to test yourself.

and i guess, if you aren't sure, then go ahead and try out this sober thing. but i know that i drink because it's simply fun.

as far as perceptions and poor judgment, fuck that. i think people become more honest when they drink. i honestly don't understand where people get this idea that some completely unrelated stranger controls one's actions when under the influence of alcohol. a person doesn't become compliant and open to suggestions because he (i'm using the masculine he in place of he or she) is drunk. he is compliant and open to suggestions because he wants to be, all of the time. he uses the drink as an excuse to be the way he always wants to be. a girl does not become a slut because she's drunk. a girl becomes a slut because she always wants to be a slut. she acts on it when she's drunk because she can blame the alcohol in the morning. i never took psych, but whichever that one, the id or the superego or whatever that is all of our desires, that's what comes out when we drink. there's reason behind a person's drunken behavior. it doesn't come out of nowhere!

look at jess. does he wear women's clothing when he's drunk for no reason? NO. it's because he's a fucking cross-dresser. does he get naked when he's drunk for no reason? NO. it's because he likes being naked. look at brian white. does he start wrestling with anyone in range when he's drunk for no reason? NO. it's because he's really violent and kinda hyper. look at austin. does he start singing along with 80s songs when he's drunk for no reason? NO. it's because he likes to sing 80s songs!! look at tao. does he walk in on people having sex when he's drunk for no reason? actually, that one is yes. i have no idea why that always happens to him. but you get the idea.

i could start talking about all the girls that i think want to be whores deep inside (and sometimes not so deeply inside). basically, any girl who enjoys sex and the city. i'm not going to though.

actually, on rereading stoops' post, i do have to agree that perceptions become altered by the sauce. i mean, i look around, and suddenly that girl isn't as fat as i first thought, or that girl's mustache kind of works on her, or that girl's acne-scarred face has character. you get the idea. people should watch out for that kind of thing.